‘Are You Wearing a Wig?’
A dreaded question for many wig wearers and can make you feel uncomfortable when asked out of the blue. Wigs are an extension of your personality and aren’t only a way to cover any thinning, balding areas, or hair loss, but they are also a source of confidence for many!
Human hair or synthetic wigs can look completely natural on men and women, and that’s why it may take you by surprise when asked, ‘is that your real hair?’, especially as a beginner wig-wearer.
Here we explore five different ways to respond to the questions ‘are you wearing a wig?’, to help overcome any fear you may have surrounding this type of question.
Responding to ‘Are You Wearing a Wig?’ and ‘Is That Your Real Hair?’
1. ‘Yes, it is my hair. Isn’t it beautiful?’
When asked, ‘is that your real hair?’, be sure to respond with confidence. You can be proud of your wig! Most people won’t mean to sound rude when asking you about your hair but, nevertheless, it can come across that way. Answer confidently: ‘Yes, it is my hair. Isn’t it beautiful?’.
When you buy anything, it belongs to you, like a car, a phone or clothes. The same applies to your wig; it is your hair! You spent time deciding between a synthetic wig or human hair wig, the wig cap construction type, the style, length and colour. You look amazing in your wig, so be proud of it.
2. ‘Why do you ask?’
If the person who’s asking the question is a close friend or family member, you can ask them why they’re asking. Most likely, they think your wig looks great and extremely natural! They may have noticed a recent change in hairstyle, or they may be surprised that you’re wearing a wig altogether. Sometimes, people may just be interested to hear about wearing a wig, as it’s not a topic often discussed (though it should be!) and may even ask for advice on where you bought the wig from.
If the person asking is a colleague or stranger, you can set the tone for this response. You could say it in a joking manner and laugh the situation off, or you could be more direct and explain that they’ve asked a very personal question out of the blue.
3. ‘Yes, I am, and here’s why…’
Depending on who has asked you such a personal question, whether they’re a family member, friend, colleague or stranger, if you feel comfortable enough to do so, one way to respond is to say ‘yes, and here’s why…’. You could explain how your wig makes you feel, how it gives you confidence and security to go about your day.
Of course, you don’t need to explain to them the story of your natural hair; it’s your hair, your wig, and you’re in control of this conversation. Remember that you don’t owe anyone an explanation and you don’t need to share your story unless you want to.
4. ‘Why, that’s a sensitive question…’
Some people might not understand that asking if you wear a wig is a very sensitive and personal question. It can also be a painful reminder of how you came to lose your hair. Why not suggest that instead of asking ‘is that your real hair?’, which can come across as a very negative and upsetting question, they could compliment your hair instead. Complimenting someone by saying ‘I love your hair!’ or ‘how do you style your hair?’ then leaves room for a comfortable and open question to discuss whether or not they wear a wig.
5. ‘What wig?’
If the person who’s asked ‘are you wearing a wig?’ is a stranger or someone who has no reason to be asking about your business, you can always turn around and ask them ‘What wig?!’ This response will most likely put them in an awkward situation which you can both laugh off, or they’ll realise that they’ve asked a rude question and apologise!
There are three main reasons that people usually spot a wig: the wig being too perfect, the wig having too much volume or not wanting to move your head a lot. Enjoy your wig, move around with confidence and try not to worry about being asked if you wear a wig. You may find our We, That Wear Wigs blogs helpful, hearing from our lovely customers who share their thoughts, feelings, and advice from their wig journey. If there’s any queries or questions that you may have, please don’t hesitate to get in touch with the Simply Wigs team. Or, if you’re feeling empowered and are on the hunt for a brand new wig, why not browse our stunning collections?
Dear Jeddie – thank you so much for taking the time to respond so thoughtfully and wisely! You are right. Unfortunately anti-female comments from pupils are increasing, thanks to Andrew Tate and the like. I suppose this was the ‘easiest’ way to insult me. I will take a deeply breath and carry on (and continue to play the lottery ?). Thank you x
Dear Rebecca,
as a former classroom teacher, I empathise with you over this attempt at a public ‘outing’ by a student.
School age kids + social media = torture potential. You already know that if it wasn’t the wig, it might be something else. That’s what they do, especially around 13/14/15. In my day, most often, girls to female teachers. I left teaching before I felt that I needed to wear a wig, so I escaped that particular version, but I was picked on because of my (maiden) name, my nose and my accent. My sister-in law, who still teaches, is picked on for her stature and the same, rather weird name (She must really love my brother to put up with that! ) As you know, we all have something that they can have a go at. It isn’t personal, it is just anti-teacher, or in some cases, anti-female teacher. There will be some kids out there who feel sad for you taking this abuse. Some may stand up for you. You will have to tough it out. I guess that you may be worried that something may be said or done to you in front of the class? It is natural to feel that way. I really don’t think that it would ever happen. To give you comfort, invest in heavy duty wig tape, if you haven’t already. If a hand is laid upon you, remind them that this constitutes a personal assault AND intimidation. Make it clear that you will have them reported and perhaps prosecuted. A previous responder had a very good idea of what to say when asked if they would remove the wig to show them what they looked like without it. Your school version would be something along the lines of, ” OK, if you shave your head and draw red and blue arrows all over it in permanent ink, then I will show you, just you, my wig, off my head”. If you were challenged (no, no, you won’t be!) then you could just show that kid one of your wigs, off your head. You would probably be suspended for suggesting such a ‘levelling up’ these days. I would be more inclined to say something like, ” well, I’m disappointed in you. I didn’t have you down as a bully, yet, quite clearly, you are trying to intimidate me, aren’t you?” I really don’t think that you will experience any of that, especially if the school has had the post taken down. If the school knows the identity of the kid responsible, then it might be a good idea to have a three way meeting with that individual. Perhaps with the school counsellor present? You could then ask directly if you had ever done anything to that student to make them want to hurt you. Bottom line is, if there is any disruptive behaviour in class that affects your teaching ability, then there should be some sanctions applied.
I know that there are some lovely wig wearers out there who would tell you to explore your wig-wearing self and to acquire a full range of styles and colours, changing dramatically from day to day. This would be viewing the whole incident as liberating! Everybody would know. Nobody could ‘out’ you for fun.
Good luck. Be brave. You are doing your very best to show the world the best, possible YOU XXXX
I’ve found all these contributions really helpful, thank you. I have androgenic alopecia and have been wearing a big for 10 years now. It has given me a lot more confidence, however i’m a teacher and have just found out that the students are gossiping about me wearing a wig and one has made a TikTok with hundreds of views, calling me Little Miss Wears a Wig. The video has been taken down, but I just feel so humiliated and am wondering how I’ll have the confidence to stand up in front of the students in class. I feel so ashamed that they have noticed and are laughing about it. I’m really struggling to get past it. Any advice gratefully received!
Just answer with pride,” I love my hair to look beautiful,, don’t
you?”
My sister was wearing a wig and she looks gorgeous.
XXXXXXX
Here’s a good comeback –
Them: “Are you wearing a wig?”
Me: “If you can’t tell, why should I?”
🙂
I lost my hair at 21 to very sudden onset male pattern baldness. It was gone in 3 months. I’d barely dated at that age and decided to wear a hairpiece. I don’t regret it. I’m 53 now and have worn a piece since those days of my youth. I’ve been “outed” several times at work, often as not by jealous types and usually when my hair looked particularly good. I used to clam up or retaliate verbally but as I matured the best retort was always “Sorry, I never discuss personal grooming.” If pressed I would simply shrug and add “I know, silly hang up of mine but no, I don’t want to discuss my personal grooming choices in front of a room full of people”. Then I’d play with my phone or saunter away with a friendly nod and smile. It’s neutral, a good diffuser and keeps everything loose. Keep that field of privacy around you and love who you are, no matter what tricks people play.
Thank you, Jeddie. I think you hit the nail on the head. She is someone who always has to be right and doesn’t mind belittling. During our coffee date, she belittled my purse (which I love) and laughed when I held it up so she could see it. I think she is very insecure.
Oh! How unpleasant and upsetting for you. Your friend was very awkward in the way that she expressed herself, especially as she is losing hair herself. She should be more sensitive towards you. It is difficult to work out what her motives might be, but she may just be one of those women who is always competing with others. Do you think that you ‘Upstaged’ her? She expected to be giving you comfort about ‘having to wear a wig, poor thing…’ and instead, you looked nice, whilst she is terrified of losing all of her own hair now. I’ll bet that you have other friends who continue to see you, rather than the wig. This woman doesn’t deserve your company until she comes to terms with her own problems.
You showed courage in the way you dealt with this difficult situation. Keep on being brave. Refuse to let people make you feel sad. Refuse to take offence. XX
I lost my hair from chemotherapy and I haven’t met friends in public for months. I haven’t told many people about my health either. I met a friend for coffee (I can’t drink coffee but she wanted to meet somewhere easy for her to park with her RA). I had shared, in phone calls and photos sent privately, that I purchased a couple wigs. She’s been losing hair due to her RA treatments. I wondered if she’d ask me questions about it in public. At first she spoke softly, “I like your wig, I mean hair.” I said thank you. Then she started asking more questions, “Is it hot?” Is it this? Is it that? The coffee shop was busy and there were people at tables around us. I told her I didn’t want to discuss it in public where other people can hear. “I thought I was being nice saying I like your wig!” She raised her voice. “No one can hear us!” I told her all she needed to say was “I like your HAIR and change the subject, because it IS my hair because I bought it.” “My mother has worn a wig for years, no one cares,” she responded. “Didn’t I say I like your WIG?” Then I tried to explain why I’m sensitive about it, people do wear wigs for lots of reasons, sometimes you can tell it’s a wig. “Maybe that’s all they can afford,” she replied. “The point IS,” I went on, “I really liked my hair. It took two years to grow out the gray. I really liked my gray hair.” “Why did you choose this color (my wig is blond)?” “Because I like it.” “Why not gray?” “BECAUSE they didn’t have gray. Gray wigs (natural hair, well made) are hard to find.” Instead of apologizing or validating my feelings, she said “I’ll never mention it again! I thought I was being nice complimenting your wig!” She kept staring at it while she talked to me. I thought about walking out. It seemed like a really passive aggressive thing to do and especially mean. I’m left thinking she was hoping I would look sick and sad in an obvious wig. But I didn’t. So she had to announce it to everyone and make me ashamed. If I wanted everyone to know I lost my hair, I wouldn’t have spent a fortune on a national looking human hair wig. Sometimes I wear a “chemo cap” but only to doctor’s appointments or at home. In public, especially if I might be seen by someone I know, I wear a wig.
I just read through this post and want to hug everyone. I wore my new wig out today for the first time to a movie. By the end of the movie the headband underneath had come loose and my wig was making my head itch and it was starting to slide off my head. Live and learn. Keeping the headband tight is key. Lesson learned LOL. I have hair. I just don’t like it very much. Growing it long or short it won’t make a difference. Thankfully my family is kind and they are supportive. If I had someone talking to my hair I’d be tempted to bend over and talk to their groin. If they asked what I was doing I’d tell them they are talking to my brain so I figured it would be the proper thing to talk to theirs (sorry if I’m being too graphic. I just really hate anyone trying to bully someone else where they are vulnerable.) Thankfully I have better responses for any potential rude questions coming my way in the future thanks to you wonderful smart people. Thank you!
Hello Debbie,
I hope that you have found our lovely customer comments on this post helpful. Our Blog is amazing for fellow wig wearers to give each other lots of advice and support.
Firstly, good for doing what is right for you and venturing into the world of wigs.
I am sure that your husband is right and that your first wig looks perfectly lovely and natural. I believe when questions such as this are asked, it reflects more on the person asking the questions and I hope that you are not still too upset by these comments.
From your post, I think there is an extent of curiosity to the change in your hairstyle and a lack of social skills in how your dinner guests have questioned this.
In time I am sure that you will get to embrace wearing your wigs and your confidence will grow, and such questions will be brushed off without you feeling hurt.
Debbie, I am sorry that you went through this.
Imagine for a minute the insecurities this person must have in order to feel that this is an appropriate question. Does he have erectile dysfunction? Depression? Or does she have scarring acne on her back or a bunion?
Of course, you would never bring your ‘friends” shortcoming up in their presence. All you have to say (practise) if someone asks you, with a big smile is…’Do you have third rate manners?’ Trust me, this person is not your friend. If their partner is the reason that this person was sharing dinner with you, perhaps mention to them what an appalling and insensitive comment it was..
Big hugs, Debbie. You’ve had some excellent advice. Please don’t let this gauche buffoon stop you from being your kind of fabulous xx
You responded really well on the spur of the moment but that is absolutely no excuse for the interrogation you received.
I often think I was unwittingly lucky in that when I came to the conclusion I had to go into a wig , which as you know is an agonisingly difficult decision to come to , I was just about to visit my son in America for about three months . By the time I arrived home everyone had forgotten the exact details of my hair and I never had a second glance ( at least I don’t
think so ! ).
You were terribly unlucky to have had a bad experience on the “ maiden voyage “ but don’t be discouraged SWs stock wonderful wigs and give great advice . Apart from the fact that you often look far better than everyone else and never have a bad hair day, these wigs are undetectable, specially if you go a bit messy , and I know you will be fine as you gain in confidence.
Hi Debbie,
some people, eh?
You do get that sometimes, it will only harm you if you let it. Think about it.
The comment was made because you suddenly look different. You look better than you have been looking, that’s all. If it was obvious that you were wearing a wig, this idiot wouldn’t have asked, they would have ‘knowingly’ and smugly made the comment, out of your hearing..
The way that the question was asked was plain rude and thoughtless. Shocking. It catches you out at the time, but the person (probably somebody who has been saying, ‘poor Debbie, her hair is looking thin, wouldn’t you think that she would do something about it?) was trying to find a reason why you had made it look so nice. Just a clumsy, insensitive thing.
As for asking for your ‘bald’ photograph, in hindsight, you could have said, ‘you show me yours and I’ll show you mine’, but the shock is numbing, isn’t it? you can’t believe what you are hearing and it knocks you off your mark.
I would choose your time to ‘dump’ this person. I would have to stage a ‘return match’ where I had all of the answers at my fingertips, just in case a remark was made again. It probably wouldn’t be.
I just came home from an evening out with my husband and another couple. Because of the upsetting experience I had, the minute I got home I typed into my computer “How to respond to people who ask if you’re wearing a wig.”
I just started wearing a wig for the first time this week and have been sensitive about doing so. My own hair was about 18″ long and had been getting thinner and thinner over the past couple of years. Due to a personal stressful time I’ve had in the past year, my hair has been falling out in clumps. A few days ago I decided enough was enough, shaved my entire head and start wearing a wig. I’ve tried my best to make i
my wig look as natural as possible.
So tonight, one of the two people we met for dinner said out loud, “Your hair looks different. Is that a wig?” Down deep I was absolutely mortified but didn’t want to let it show. I answered, “Yes it is, and as a matter of fact, I shaved my head” As mouths dropped open to my response, I explained why. The next question was, “Do you have a picture of yourself bald? Can I see?”
I smiled my way through dinner, and when I got in the car I turned to my husband and said, “Apparently it’s obvious I’m wearing a wig” and I began to cry. My husband comforted me and told me that my wig looks great on me and that he loves it. He said, “As long as you like it and it makes you feel good about yourself, that’s all that matters.”
He’s right, but the sting still stung.
Thanks Jeddie .
I don’t want to expect the worst because it’s never happened but forewarned is forearmed and a few little answers up my sleeve is useful. In truth the wearing of a wig has given me far more confidence that I had during my horrible hair loss days .
To Carol:
You are, of course, absolutely right. It is a wounding experience, to be questioned about your wig. You do need to arm yourself with something that you feel that you actually can say. I like part of Gillian’s response, ” yes, that’s right. I wear it because I need to. I’m aware that people who closely scrutinise others can spot it, but I always hope that people will have the sensitivity not to mention it.”
You need to make it clear to people that you are not doing anything wrong, by wearing a wig, but that they are offending you by drawing attention to your wig. I have answered along these lines and have been told, ” you shouldn’t be so sensitive”. I responded, ” perhaps you shouldn’t make judgements about things you don’t understand”
As with everything, we have to learn strategies to protect ourselves from the words and actions of inconsiderate people. It is like learning a script. It won’t happen very often, never to some people, it seems. However, we need to be ready for it.
I’d love to be like some of the people who have answered here who can just brush these questions aside but unfortunately I’m not ; I would be terribly embarrassed and mortified to be challenged in public . It can only be extremely rude and insensitive but I have been given some suitable replies – thank you everyone.
By the way it’s proved to be a very popular subject and most people seem to have a view .
I have androgenetic Alopecia. I have been wearing wigs for ten years now as my few strands of hair leave me no option.
I used to have lovely long, thick, curly hair and not in a million years thought I would lose it.
I have had the odd rude stare at my “hair” aka wig. But don’t care. A wig gives me back my dignity and confidence, as well as I never have a bad hair day.
If I was ever asked outright I would be very blunt and say “Why on earth would you ask me that and yes I am because I have no hair. Not that you have any business asking and I think it is a very insensitive question.”
As I have Fibrosing Alopecia am 78 and have had ongoing loss since 2015 leaving me now with very little and I have worn wig since 2016. Kiki’s note touched me as I am also conscious of wear my wig as I too have a partner who although does not live with me we visit each other twice month normally, holiday together etc both families see us as an item and as we have been together for 16 years and I had a full head of reasonably thick hair when we met now I even take my wig off when I go to bed at ALL times even when we are together the only comment he has ever made is if he thinks a particular new wig suits me or not and even why he thinks it. Please don’t be put off by that awful person, personally I would have said to him, “Frankly that’s good because I think you are a most undesirable person and want you to go, goodbye”. Don’t let him get to you precious he really isn’t worth the effort.
Fortunately I’ve only had positive responses to wearing wigs. But to me I find it really rude when I’m asked to ‘ take it off ‘ just to satisfy their curiosity. I respond with ‘you take yours off first ‘. It throws them and usually they get embarrassed for asking.
I sympathise with Kiki. I think that some people, in fact quite a few, think that they have the right to do this sort of thing! I have had lots of people make fun of me both to my face and behind my back because I wear wigs, due to hair loss. I had had a partner for 8yrs. I wasn’t wearing wigs, at that time, and I told him that I intended to start wearing wigs. I asked him how he felt about it. To my horror, he said that he would seriously have to consider if he wanted to be seen with me. So, I took the decision out of his hands!! I had bitchy women (and some men) at work, who would talk to my wig, instead of me, or make comments, within earshot. As said by Angela. That says more about these people, than it does about us. I’ve had people, who thought that I had cancer. Often, they thought that it was ‘okay’ to wear a wig, if l ‘needed’ to because I had cancer but not for hair loss! They didn’t think that I should get wigs for having hair loss on the NHS!
Well, I’ve had few comments made by people, who don’t know that I wear wigs, than the insensitive comments that I got for losing my hair. It doesn’t matter what people think, who don’t know you. Just ignore them! People, who know and love you, will be happy that you are making the most of yourself, just like anyone else! Please don’t shut yourself away! I’ve tried that and it just made me more unhappy! Wear your wigs with pride. Some wigs are more convincing than others. Get advice, if you are unsure. Don’t ask for opinions from people who are scared to be honest. There are lots of people on YouTube giving advice on wig wearing and wig care, as well as the excellent people, at Simply Wigs! We who wear wigs are, no longer, alone! This community is here for your support. Use us and get out there! Today, there are people walking around with pink, blue, green, orange, purple and grey hair (with dark roots)! We all know that that isn’t the hair that they were born with! Just because it’s not natural doesn’t mean that it can’t be striking, or accepted. Lots of celebrities wear wigs! So, why can’t we?
I can’t understand why people are making such a big problem out of this.
On the rare occasions that people ask this question I simply say “Yes I have alopecia” End of story.
What a horrific experience, Kiki. What a nasty, abusive person he was, you had a narrow escape there. His cruel treatment was psychopathic, and says more about him than you. It is so sad that you went through this trauma. Look after yourself and cherish all the good people who love you and care for you.
My very best wishes,
Angela
I had a horrible wig shaming experience back in 2015. I had met a fellow in real time, but since we lived on opposite sides of the country, we had been corresponding. Never mind the fact I had given him a heads up months before that I sometimes like to change up my look by wearing wigs and I even had sent selfies with me wearing various types of wigs. Not once in all that time did he indicate that he didn’t like it. He decided to travel cross country to visit me. I’m in my 50s, and I know I’m no spring chicken but I still wanted to try to look my best for his visit. So I purchased some new clothes, and got a really attractive wig. On the day of the visit, my daughter helped me with my makeup and I though I looked pretty good. He said nothing in front of my family, but once we were alone, he just started in on me about the wig! Completely criticized and shamed me. He acted horrified I would actually wear “that thing” in public! When I stood up for myself, he wrote it off saying “I looked 10 years younger” but the damage was already done. Throughout the date (or non-date as he later put it) he kept staring at my head as if there were an insect on my head. It was just awful. I was nearly in tears by the time the visit was over. I had never felt so ashamed and humiliated before or since. I tell my story so folks will know there are people out there were are beyond rude, they are simply cruel! I’m afraid to wear a wig or even try to date now because of this. It’s been 6 years but it still hurts. 🙁
I absolutely love wigs. I am 54 my hair is long. But you have to color it quite often. I have MS and styling my hair is difficult. So wigs are easy. I get compliments a lot. People some times ask if it’s a wig. Mainly because I’m out in the weather and most hairs styles wouldn’t hold up. I usually reply with a smile “you just don’t ask a lady their secrets”. Then go on about my business. Thank God I don’t sweat or I may not be able to handle wearing them. But I do find a wig protects you from the hot sun.
I own about 40 wigs. I call myself a wigologist. The most recent 20 were purchased for my 56th birthday. I also create wigs and hair pieces. I consider my wigs as part of my wardrobe. I have hair and sometimes I wear it styled. But I love becoming and being in my wigs. If asked, I always reply yes! Its nice isnt it!?! I am finally very happy and satisfied with all that is me at 56. Only one you, whatever your situation please enjoy you, love, and know that life is short, fleeting but sweet.
I wear a wig because o love too!
I own more than 20 or more wigs in different styles and colors!
I’ve worn wigs since I was old enough too! (16). I have hair. And do sometimes wear it…
I actually have a “wig-wash” and style day on Sundays!
I wash the ones I’ve worn, and will pull out some I haven’t worn in awhile and do the same to them!
I’ve only had people to tell me how nice it looks, or, they like the “other one” better on me!
I wear my wigs with confidence and pride, I FEEL GOOD IN IT, that’s all that matters to me!
I am continually at the lack of manners and respect shown by some people. I wear wigs sometimes because I am unable to style my own due to physical issues. Sometimes I need to go out and I wears wig. I don’t see the big deal. You might as well ask if they are wearing a padded bra or if they have implants. It’s just beyond rude.
I have Androgenic Alopecia. My mother had it and 2 of my 3 sisters are experiencing thinning of their hair and receding hairlines. I’m the only one that has permanent scarring of the follicles at the crown of my head. I wear baseball caps or wigs. When asked about my wigs I simply chuckle and say that ” I’m channeling my inner Beyonce” and that wigs are fun to wear! I wear different styles and lengths and my husband loves them on me.
I wear a wig because I have stage 4 breast cancer and extreme hair loss. I don’t care if someone asks if I wear a wig because when I tell them why, they feel real stupid and shamed for asking.
It is 11:24 p.m. and my next door neighbor just text me saying ” OMG were you wearing a wig today? ” and I’m not entirely sure how to respond because the reason I am wearing a wig is because hair salon that I went to the owner butchered my hair and literally chopped chunks out when he was trying to layer my hair one side is waiting shorter than the other and it honestly looks like I got into a fight with a lawnmower and I have been very insecure about it since it isn’t long enough to be able to cut it to be even out.
‘Are You Wearing a Wig?’
Big smile, direct eye contact…
‘Do you have any manners at all?’
Perhaps I’m over defensive. I have never been asked this.
The nearest I got was coming out of the ROH one evening, some sh*t of a young man, perhaps seeking to impress his girlfriend(I rather hope that it had the opposite effect…) said ‘Dead hair! Wig!’ directly behind my back. For an instant, I was devastated. We slowed to let him pass and I said, ‘Third rate manners…pig!’ We had clocked him by now, so I knew it wasn’t some body building brute, in addition to being a complete jerk, who may have decked me or my hubby for daring to front his bullying remark.
Some people can be randomly cruel. They’re not getting their rocks off on me. You have to fight for your self worth occasionally and I wouldn’t do anything differently, faced with a similar situation.
I have androgenic alopecia; as this is more commonly a male complaint, (male pattern baldness) I hope he gets a taste of it. And BTW – well done Julie. Whatever makes your heart sing
This is a response to Julie’s comment this morning regarding people you met on holiday. I am a wig wearer which I would rather not be to be honest, and I know full well the psychological effects of losing one’s hair… but the husband that filmed you from behind: showing a label peeping out from underneath “your hair” ! What a horrible, cruel man he is. I’m glad you gave that couple a wide berth for the rest of your holiday. Best wishes. Angela
It depends who is asking the question! Why do they need to know?
I would suggest that it is always best to initially reply with another question.
If it is somebody well-trusted and somebody whom you know likes you, then:
“You may be right, but, the question is, do you like my hair?”
If it comes from a person whom you are unsure about then:
” That’s a funny question. Whatever makes you ask that?”
This worked well with an unpleasant work rival, who floundered with,
” Errm, it’s just that it looks different suddenly, but it is very nice”.
” Oh, thanks for noticing. I’m pleased with my hair too”.
No further comments…
This is what I have learned after many years of wearing wigs. In fact, I am happy to just tell people. After all, wig-wearing isn’t much different to using make up, false nails or colouring your hair. Yes, it’s a ‘cheat’ to make you look better, but it isn’t pretending to be somebody different from the person that you are. I wouldn’t condemn anybody for wanting to present themselves in a way that makes them feel more confident and happy. It should remain a personal choice how we do that.
I was once unknowingly videoed from behind by the husband of a couple that we met on holiday. He made a point of showing me, and others present, a ‘shaming’ video. In the film, I had a Jon Renau label clearly showing at the back of my short wig. He had zoomed in on it several times. I just said, ” How weird, John. I look a bit ‘broad in the beam’. Are you trying to hint to me that I’m too fat?” The smirk died on his face and he said nothing. I spent the rest of the holiday with attempted cross-examinations by the wife, about the medication I was on! I guess she though I’d had cancer.
I just gave them a wide berth, but it did teach me to always check the back of the wig in the mirror. A valuable lesson learned and I never saw anybody from that holiday again, so, who cares….!