I met Neil online during covid, we were chatting for 4 months before we could meet up. This is because we live in different areas.
Neil had seen a photo of me online and also on a video playing my guitar. He would tell me how beautiful my hair was. He would say I love your hair. I would smile and say thank you.
‘He had no idea I was wearing a wig’
Sometimes I would wear it long and wavy, other times long and straight. I kept to the same blonde shade though. So he wouldn’t notice. He knew I was a hairdresser, so he thought that was the reason my hair was so lovely. When we eventually got the chance to meet up. He commented again on my beautiful hair. I thought to myself, how could I possibly tell him it was a wig? After a couple of weeks, I plucked up the courage. I told him over the phone that I had something to confess. He thought it must be something really devastating. I wasn’t prepared for his reaction. He said calmly, well how amazing is that I would never have guessed. He said How lucky are you to get the chance to have any hairstyle you like.
You look amazing all the time and never have a bad hair day. Then he asked where I got them from. He told me he would like to look at styles with me. He even offered to buy one for me. A few weeks later I decided it was time to take off my wig and show him what was underneath. My daughters said, are you sure mum are you not nervous? Of course I was nervous, I thought he might not like me the same without it.
Anyway, I walked into the kitchen where he was making a cuppa. I said well here goes it’s time to reveal my own hair. Which is really thin and frizzy due to alopecia. He said you don’t have to if you don’t feel right. So I took it off and looked at him. He came over and hugged me. He said you are just as beautiful without it. He said I love you even more now than I did before.
He understands though that my personality comes alive when I’m wearing my wigs. He never says the word wigs he just says it’s my hair.
‘It’s all about what’s on the inside
People that matter see our inner beauty. They appreciate how special we can feel though when wearing a beautiful wig.
love from,
Deborah.
P.S. In the picture I am wearing the Cher wig in Champagne 🙂
Oh, so sweet, that brought tears to my eyes x
She is very brave I admire her for being so brave.I’ve had alopcia for some time before wearing wigs, I went to London every six weeks to have wig extensions, at the time I was with my husband and he knew, when he left I.couldn’t afford to do this and I have been on my own for twelve year. as Im embarrassed anddon’t want to tell anyone my problems.
Fabulous! Love your story..you look absolutely stunning ! And you’ve a keeper for sure there…x
Dear Deborah: Yes, a beautiful wig works wonders for your confidence especially if your confidence took a knock when you lost your hair. Like me, you are so fortunate to have a lovely partner who is kind and understanding. We’re still together after 30 years and I trust it will turn out the same way for you.
You & Neil look so ‘together’ and I would never know you wear a wig. I wish you every happiness in the future.
What a beautiful story!
Wonderful story,
So nice to hear positive news, your wig is so beautiful, it complements your looks ? so very happy for you both xx
Well, he’s a keeper, isn’t he?
I love your story. It gives us all hope.
I must say that you have the most beautiful face, Deborah.
Maybe if your hair had been as perfect as the wigs, you may have missed out on very nice Neil. You would not have been so shy and other, more flashy guys would have been pursuing you and may have ‘turned your head’. If that had been the case, they may not have appreciated you as much as Neil does.
You are a perfect match XX
You look lovely and it is great you have found a man who is lovely. I lost all my hair when I was 19. I married my husband two years later after we had been dating for six and a half years . We have now been together for almost sixty years and he too has always told me how wonderful I look but only when I was unwell for a while last year did he first see me without a wig and he too told me then that I still looked beautiful to him. May your love last decades also.
And wow, Deborah, you are beautiful!
What a lovely story and what a nice man x
What a beautiful story. Xxx
This made me cry so much.
How wonderful. What a darling man. You look amazing.
I’ve had chemotherapy so lost all hair. I look at wigs and can’t afford one so lovely.
I ordered one on Amazon. I know you get what you pay for but I got what I could afford.
Rats tails comes to mind.
Bless you for sharing such a beautiful story and photo it’s lovely to read of true love and happiness xxxxxx